The Talk

We had THE talk. A very good and productive heart to heart. I was able to really tell him the things that hurt me and things that are causing me to have second thoughts about us.
I told him that I'm 42 years and I just want to live happy. I don't want to fight or cry or any of that crap anymore.
I told him that I am a free bird that has been caged and I'm ok with that. To a point. But I do have a point and I've reached it. I want to spend time with friends and family and alone without him having a fit or giving me the silent treatment.
This doesn't mean that I don't want to be with him. I do. But I can't be his WHOLE ENTIRE life. He needs to live beyond me. He needs to either get with friends or family once in awhile or just be happy be alone when I'm doing something without him. And he CAN'T keep projecting his frustrations onto me.

It's ok to be frustrated.
It's ok to be mad.
It's ok to address problems.
It's NOT ok to do these things in public and in an out of control way.

I was very clear. There are certain things that will continue to drive me away and now those things have been laid out.

It was a very good talk. I feel really good about things again. I feel like there is still hope for this relationship. I really want this to work. I love him and we do have so much fuin together. He just has to learn how to be ok when we aren't together.