I found your blog
"Your new blog." He said with a nervous laugh. "But I couldn't get into it. I don't have a password"
"that's right" Long pause..........I finally ask "why were you looking for my 'PRIVATE' blog?"
"Because I want to know what you are writing about me" (um, no you don't)
"What makes you think I'm writing anything about you?"
"Because that's what you do. You tell the world things you can't talk to me about"
Just about an hour before we had been sitting at Ruby Tuesdays for our Valentine's dinner when I told him about a trip my mom and a couple of aunts and cousins were making to Boston. I explained that my grandmother was having eye surgery and that we were going to rent hotel rooms and spend the night down there. The surgery is not a big deal. She'll go in at 8:30am on a Monday and be done by noon and can come home. But it's the 1 year anniversary of my cousin killing himself. We just want to spend some time together.
He thought that was dumb. alot of things I do is dumb
A waste of money. my cousin and mom and I are splitting a room that my aunt is getting us a discount on.
Why not go in the summer when you can actually DO something. this isn't a vacation. We are supporting my grandmother and spending much needed family time together
What if you have a deadline. I'll work around it
So you can pick and chose which deadlines to work around? No, but March 26th isn't near an IRS filing deadline
What if your aunt can't get another room? Then we'll set up a cot or roll away bed and rough it
No way would I sleep on a cot. If I couldn't have a bed then I wouldn't go. That's you. I don't feel the same way (you weren't invited to start with)
I can see why your mom is going but why do all the rest of you have to go? We don't HAVE to go. We WANT to go. We actually like each other and want to support my 86 year old grandmother
the hospital isn't going to want a dozen or so of you hanging around the waiting room. Too bad what they want. WE ARE GOING.
I still think it is dumb. I'm starting to think this whole conversation is dumb
And he wants to know why I tell YOU things I can't say to HIM?
I'm sure you can see why.
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You handled that alot better than I would have... and he found this blog?? That must have taken alot of work to do -
Im thinking these need to be added to the "red flag" list... :(
Love you Boo!
Ok. my jaded tounge is nearly bitten off...but, Boohoney...
RED FLAGS GALORE!!!! Danger!!! Danger Will Robinson!!!!
**You are in a fairly new relationship.
**You do not live together nor are you engaged but he seems to think he can dictate what he thinks you should do with your time.
**He doesn't understand, nor seems to want to understand, the bond your family has to each other.
**His disapproval of most anything that doesn't include him and his jealous-stalking-controling qualities are over the top.
**If they are at this level now, what will they be like if this relationship goes to a deeper, more committed level?
There, I said it. I had to, because I love you, and care about you honey. However, this is only my opinion, and I could have it all wrong. If I do, I'm sorry boobaby, honest.
Now I will go back to my jaded tongue biting because no matter what, I'm gonna be right here being your friend. *hugs*
you may look at my words of advice as a bit dumber than that conversation since who i am to give advice at all, right?
he sounds very controling and very immature by that conversation. obviously, it's merely one conversation but there are lots of signs pointing in the same direction...
(((boo)))
Believe me the RED FLAGS ARE UP. I'm just getting through this weekend then I'll be breaking things off or at least scaling back considerably.
It seems we can't have a conversation lately that doesn't have the "I'm the boss" tone. Seems like lately I can't seem to take my eyes off the floor.
I love you too, more than you know.
And no, Leen, I have yet to see any of your words of advice as dumb.
Hey sweetie, after reading what I wrote, I think I sounded too harsh. I didn't intend it to be that way, I'm sorry. I would never judge you or try and tell you how to run your life.
You don't need any more pressure than you are under right now. I'm here for you.
Hold you head up honey, you are a wonderful mom, you work hard, you have a kind heart, sweet spirit and have way too gorgeous eyes to be looking down. *muah*
How it should've gone...
You: "I'm going to Big City for the night, my grandma's having surgery..."
Him: "Do you want me to go?"
You: "Nah, we're gonna spend time together as a family. It's the anniversary of (details)"
Him: "Okay, I'll take care of things here and pray that all will go well. I'll miss you..."
A big difference right there.
Ah men. Can't live with them and can't shoot them ;-)
Oops my bad. I found a website that has dog booties that are XXS. Check out the comments section on my doggie galoshes post...
Negative Nellie! Geesh! Those crazy red flags are flying high! Alert! Alert! Alert!
Oh honey, Im sorry. Im not liking how he deals with you. Nope, not liking it at all. He isnt being very supportive and he should be. Thats what a relationship is about, support and understanding and he seems to lack both.
Listen to that inner voice girl, its right on.
Love you Boo...
You doing okay? xoxo
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