How did I get back here again??

I'm back in trouble with Dana.

Do you ever think that maybe you were overreacting? Do you think that maybe you aren't remembering things right? Do you ever think that everyone deserves a second chance? Do you believe that people can learn from their mistakes?

You knew that I had been seeing Dana again as friends. Only he didn't see it as friends. He said that he did but his actions were much louder than words. Actions and body language that he claims he doesn't believe in.

I decided last Friday to just call it quits. Well he went ballistic and yelled and screamed at me. Came to my house after I told him that I had a ton of stuff going on. (Mainly Heather's graduation) Circular arguments and lots of immature conversation. I tried to help him to understand that we are just friends. That means that we see each other when we can and when we can't he should do his own thing.

Well he isn't. He is trying to interject himself into all parts of my life. He turns every conversation around to be about him. I said that I was glad that Earl and Debbie have moved in, they are actually a big help with all the menial tasks of the house. He says that he would be helpful too if he lived there.

I was talking about Sat and Heather's party and trying to plan around not knowing how many guests would be there and he said "well, I know one who won't be there because you won't let me"

I'm just tired of it. So I broke it off. Only he doesn't believe it. Wants an explanation. Wants to know EXACTLY what my problem is so we can work on it. WTF. I sent him one last email last night. Telling him that I was done. Not to call or text or email me. What's the first thing he did? He emailed and texted me. Threatened to come to my house if I don't meet him and explain myself and why I'm doing this to him.

Ok, now I'm starting to think he is as psycho as his sister. I am meeting him. I told him I would give him 10 min at 5:30 at Wal-Mart. I have Lee and Tim for back up. No more worrying about his feelings. No more coddling. Just straight and to the point.

1) I'm just not into you anymore
2) I'm not going to get into you
3) I don't have an explanation that you will accept
4) blame it all on me I don't care
5) Leave me alone and don't contact me again.

Part of his arguement on Friday was that I was using him. I asked him "for what". he said Sex. I laughed. I said you're kidding me. He said no he wasn't kidding. He is the one who got mad last Tuesday night when he showed up at my house, uninvited and I told him early on that he could visit but he wasn't staying over. Then he stayed until almost 11pm and still tried to just go to bed. I had to boot him out of the house. He was angry and called it getting turned down. He showed up. I fed him. We hung out. We watched a ball game. Then he refused to leave. I finally asked him to leave, but he was turned down. He was mad because we didn't have sex. It became alarmingly clear that sex was the most important thing and the friendship and hanging out was something he merely suffered through to get the goods.

I told him that any relationship will be purely plutonic. NO SEX. But he isn't handling that well and he doesn't stop calling and texting. That's why I sent him the email last night that said it's over and to please stay away. But like usual he doesn't listen. After tonight he will listen and if he bothers me again I will email his parents and all his friends and let them know what he is doing and ask that they advise him to stay away from me.

I'll say it for you. You were right. You were the smart ones. I am the dummy. I am the one who let the lonelies get the better of me.