I've been quiet all week because there has been a new problem in my life. New yet old. The same problem I've always secretly dealt with but was able to internalize.
My baby brother is hurting. His heart is breaking which makes my heart ache. His wife of 11 and a half years has asked for a divorce. I offered him to come and live with me for awhile. He said he will.
I've always worried about him. He is the baby of the family and my mom and I cannot help but treat him as such. 35 years old and still I think of him as that cute little curly toe-head. But he isn't a baby. He's a man. And he is making his own way the best he can. I promised him that we'd be roommates. I won't be "taking care" of him or checking up on him. I told him the only rules are pay me my rent on time and no smoking in the house. (he quit about a year ago so that's really no prob)
I think it will be fine. My mom is relieved to know he is coming here and I will be more likely to treat him like a grown up than she will.
Not sure yet how Dana feels about him moving in. His body language tells me he is not happy about it and resentful but his words are encouraging. Doesn't really matter I guess because I know that I'm not in it for the long haul. Just trying to keep peace during the short haul.
Jammie J- I am doing ok, thanks for asking. I am curious about your story about your friend. Do tell.
Chrissy- I like that you tell it like it is. No sugar coating necessary here. Never worry about that. ok?
5 comments:
sorry to read about your brothers marriage. sounds as if he'll be in the best possible place there with you. so sweet of you to give him that option.
BTW...when I say I am not in it for the long haul, that is in reference to Dana not my brother. My bro can stay as long as he needs to.
(((u))) Doesn't matter how old we get, the big sister in us always kicks in, huh?
Im sorry about your brothers divorce too, hes blessed to have a family that loves and supports him.
And I know you mean about Dana. Ive been saying to Chris "THIS is going to be an issue in the future" quite a bit lately.
big sigh here...
It's hard when your siblings are going through tough spot. I remember when my brother went through is divorce, he would just come over and sit on my couch, not say much, just sit there and watch TV. He just didn't want to be alone. Damn near tore my heart out to see him cry. (sigh)
My little story is just kind of a hope for the future kind of thing, I guess. My girlfriend who had been abstinent for about 10 years found a guy and thought he was all he should be. After 3-4 months she just started to feel uncomfortable. She weaned it to "just friends", that didn't work so well. It kind of turned into what you're describing with Dana. She finally made the break complete.
A couple months after the break was complete, she met another guy and they've been seeing each other for a year or so now. They get on well, and he respects her space, etc. Their relationship isn't without baggage, but they get on well enough and are good for each other. I don't know how it will turn out, but for now he's what she's needs, you know?
She calls the first guy she was with the ice breaker -- he was what she needed for that time, to make her feel beautiful again as a woman.
My point is, Dana's not the one, but he was the one for the moment that you needed.
(hugs)
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